According to Dailymail, when you marry someone, you're supposed to be settling down with the person you love and intend to spend the rest of your life with. But according to some people, there are many red flags that signal your union is doomed from the beginning.
Divorcees have taken to the online forum to share the signs that their marriage wouldn't last.
According to 'Iliah', it's not what you disagree on - it's 'all in how you disagree.When you disagree, do you discuss the issue of the person?. There's no such thing as two people perfect for each other, and how you approach the friction is what either strengthens or eats away at a relationship,' the user writes. When you disagree, do you discuss the issue of the person? Is it, "I want sushi, but you want pizza", or is it, "You always want sushi, I never get pizza".' The user says that while this difference is subtle, it's 'so much more important than most people realise'.
Basically, with the second approach, the person is being made out to be the problem instead of the problem itself, and it shows that one person in the relationship is holding on to negative emotions.
For another user, 'ChapstickChick', the most obvious signal was that she was afraid of her partner. He had a short temper and was extremely controlling and possessive,' she wrote. I realised how similar our relationship was to that of my parents and grandparents—my dad is also very short-tempered and selfish and had a habit of belittling my mom for almost everything. And I honestly don’t know if my grandparents ever loved each other, yet both couples stayed married without, fixing the problems.'
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