ADVISE- Can I trust a man who has cheated on me with Two women?

      Six months ago, my partner and I moved abroad for his work. We’ve been together 12 years and for the past two years were living in my home.

      He’s ten years younger (I’m 62, but don’t look it), but claims this was never an issue: he loves me, finds me sexy. I felt we were perfectly matched in every way, and he was the most stable, honest, monogamous man I’d ever met.
     But three months ago, I found he’d been seeing another woman (his age) back home.
This began about the time he moved in with me. She’s married; and I now believe (though he denies it) that the only reason he stayed was that she couldn’t leave her husband.
So everything went on as usual (all bills paid by me), but he was constantly in touch and seeing her whenever she could manage to get away.


     In messages, he told her she was the love of his life — he’d never felt like this about any other woman he’d known. I discovered he’d flown secretly back home twice to see this ‘love of his life’ — and, incidentally, have sex with a second woman, who’d happened to catch his fancy right around the time we were preparing to relocate.  I packed my bags. He cried, saying that he didn’t want to lose me.
     I flew home. Two days later he told me he had broken up with her over the phone, and I came back. Now, we seem to be in a renewed phase: closer than ever and he swears he’ll never hurt me again. He promises all communication with the other woman has stopped — but he was communicating with her for several days after the ‘break-up’.
     Each time I asked he looked me in the eye and said: ‘No, there’s been no communication whatsoever.’ This was a lie. So, I have lost trust in him. He says he’ll win it back, but I can’t believe him. I’m reduced to a stressed, jealous, insecure woman, feeling ‘second choice’, looking for any opportunity to search his phone.
      I remember those messages and lose sleep. Not to mention the dark thoughts of wreaking havoc in her life by informing her unsuspecting husband.
     How can I move past this? And more importantly, should I?. If he called another woman the love of his life, am I foolish to believe he doesn’t intend to see her again?
A friend said I shouldn’t give him a second chance because he’ll keep repeating this behaviour. Another friend said even the worst criminals deserve a second chance.
What is your opinion?
Source-Dailymail